Hello! I hope all is well with everyone! ;) I'm doing great at this point in my life. I will be Cancer free almost 4 years in Sept!!! I'm feeling better as each years goes by. Thank you Lord!!! People don't understand, but it takes years to recover from Cancer. It's a slow process. Our cells regenerate at a slow pace each day. It's like being an infant growing. I've done my research. Cancer tried to defeat me, but I said I can let it drag me down, or I can take my life back & live & do the things I desire. I'm a new person & I'm at the point where I'm doing me. My kids are getting older & I'm enjoying me for the 1st time in years. Cancer gave me a 2nd chance to live & explore more things about myself. I'm doing more things that I love. I never thought I would do these things. I'm exploring my passions in life. I'm excited about the things I'm doing!!! I love what I'm doing in my life!!! I use to burden people & talk about fashion & what the celebs were wearing. I know they got tired of hearing that, so I decided to start another Blog about Fashion & the things I like & I'm having so much fun Blogging about it. Everyone is not into that, but I am. I love to look at clothes & hair, etc. I'm getting out more & having my me time. I do lunch with people, shop, etc. I love my me time. I can go out for hours by myself & enjoy spending time with me. I don't feel the need to hang with people a lot. I make my lunch dates & enjoy the moment. I'm able to have a clear mind & focus on my life now. I was always dedicated to my Husband & Kids. I'm enjoying myself. God has been good to me & I'm taking my 2nd chance & making the best out of it. This is my moment!!! Life is what you make it & take advantage of it, now. I take each day as it comes & embrace the day for what it is. If I don't feel like doing anything, I don't. When I do, I get out & explore. I still do my duties at home, but I don't neglect thy self. Never again. Like Fantasia said: I'm doing me! This time around, I'm loving whatever!!! Life isn't always great, but I'm making the best out of my life. Take some time to smell the roses & enjoy. Life is short! Enjoy & do what you desire. If you have dreams, goals, etc..........make it happen. There's no time like the present!!! Enjoy life & take care of you & give God the Glory. Have a beautiful day & start living. Love to all ;)
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Tuesday, June 4, 2013
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Saturday, April 6, 2013
Some People Take Cancer Survivors For Granted
Hello! It's amazing how some people react to a person with Cancer or a survivor of Cancer. When I had Cancer, some people treated me like I had the plague! As if Cancer was contagious. They stayed their distance. Some would ask about me through 3rd party. Which was sad! Pick the phone up & call. Just say hello & I'm Praying for you & your family or can I do anything for you doing this time. A kind word would go a long way during that time. People should stop being so selfish. Cancer can hit anyone at any given time. Cancer does not discriminate! Remember that! Going through having Cancer is the ultimate life change. Your life will never be the same! I can't explain the surgeries, pain, hospital stays, blood work labs & having poison going in your body. It was an ordeal I never will forget! If you know someone battling this disease, be kind & be sweet. Send them thinking of you cards & call often. Ask them if they need a shoulder to cry on & most importantly, listen to them! Let them vent for a moment. People be in a fragile state & needs someone to have empathy for them. If a patient don't have a car & you do, see if they need a ride to Chemo, if you're available. God will Bless you. If you cook, take them a meal. Do something outside yourself. I would be in a room & hear people talking about Cancer & be in shock at some of the things I heard! "I'm glad it ain't me", "I'll never get Cancer", "I wonder how much time he got left", "She must have been a bad person to get Cancer", "Dang, that's messed up","They didn't eat right", "Oh well, where are we going to eat". Terrible, right? All people with Cancer are not bad people. Some people hear you're a survivor & be like, dang, why my "whoever" didn't make it! What's so special about you?! How about, congratulations? God is good! Praise the Lord! Some people asked me about my journey, but didn't care when I was going through it. I say to those people, God healed me & I'm Blessed & I would rather not go down that road right now. Be compassionate to the people battling & to the people who have survived. Some people think because you survived that you bounce back to normal. You're life will never be the same! It takes years to feel 100%! It's a physical & emotional battle coming back from Cancer. It's been almost 4 years for myself & I still have days where I'm really tired & emotional. I still deal with pain from Chemo. Chemo killed good cells as well as bad cells. Those good cells have to rejuvenate. It's like being an infant as far as the cells growing. I have days where I'm GREAT! I don't rush to do anything anymore. I've learned to take time & smell the roses. I've been Blessed beyond belief & I want to share my story to help someone. Please take heed to what I'm saying. Some people don't get it until it's them or someone close to them battling the disease. Don't let it get to that point before you're kind to a person with Cancer. We have to fight for a cure & encourage those going through this & encourage the survivors as well. Pray for continued good health for the survivors. If you don't know what to say, please don't say anything bad. Encouraging words are a Blessing coming from your mouth! That's how God wants us to be to one another in need. Just my words & thoughts. I hope this is enlightening to someone. Have a Blessed night! Love to all!!!
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Friday, April 5, 2013
Doing Something I Love
I've been talking about doing something for a long time & I finally decided to do it. I wanted to do something I was passionate about. I love fashion, shopping, hair, dressing up, dressing my daughter, doing fancy hairstyles on my daughter's hair, cooking, decorating, planning parties & crafting! I wanted to combine everything I love into one idea. So, I started another Blog. http://www.fashionandwhateverilike.blogspot.com. I Started it on Weds & my son helped with the technical stuff, but I did most of it on my own. I amazed myself. I love going on websites/Blogs looking at the latest fashion & hairstyles. I've been doing this for years. I know all the labels, etc. I knew my friends/family were getting tired of me talking about those things, so I decided to do a Blog & blog about it. My husband laughs when I take pictures of the food I cook or what I'm wearing. I'm just passionate about those things. I'm so excited that I finally did it. It may not mean much to anyone else, but it means the world to me! I thank God that he gave me the motivation to do it & I Prayed & asked God to Bless my Blogs. It's all positive! Nothing negative will go on my Blogs! I rebuke negative people & negative comments. Nothing will discourage me! I just wanted to share with you! I'm feeling GREAT!!! I'm so Blessed! On to my next chapter in my life! Have a Blessed Day!!! Love to all!!!
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Wednesday, April 3, 2013
Words To Live By
Wait On God
1st Birthday After Cancer
Sunday, February 10, 2013
Love how God made you!
Hello! I can remember a long time ago the two things I didn't like about myself. They were my skinny legs & my boney shoulders. There were two people that use to make fun of those things constantly & I developed a complex years ago. My aunt use to tease me about my legs. She would say what's that hanging from your skirt & I would look & she would say, oh that's just two strings hanging. It would hurt my feeling. This girl would say, Clarice, if you didn't have a butt & hips, you would be so skinny. She would say I can't believe you have on shorts with those little legs. I stopped wearing shorts after that. She had really nice legs & she didn't have a butt or hips, but I never teased her. I'm not like that. I didn't care how hot it was, I wouldn't put on a pair of shorts. It's crazy because I would wear a dress or skirt, but never felt funny about wearing them. It was just shorts. It's amazing how it takes something major to happen to you for your eyes to be opened. I remember watching The Oprah Winfrey Show when Halle Berry was on there & she spoke of the things she didn't like about herself & Oprah told her wait until you turn 40, you will learn to embrace & love you. Halle was on her show after she turned 40 & told Oprah she was right. She said she had so much confidence & was loving herself. Oprah was so right! I'll get back to that later. I had to have surgery in my chest due to Cancer & I had a big scar after the surgery. I was upset about that, but I got over it. I would never wear a strapless dress or tube top, because I thought I was to skinny up top & my bones stood out. After my Cancer treatment in 2010, I decided that I was going to wear strapless dresses, tube tops, shorts & strapless jumpsuits. I remember this day like it was yesterday. My husband said I thought you didn't like tops like this. I said I didn't, but I do now. He said what about your scar. I said it's a battle scar & I made it through. I felt a little funny at first, but I started to feel confident & my friend said to me, that I was the perfect size to wear stuff like that. I saw the girl who use to tease me about wearing shorts & she said I can't believe you're wearing shorts. I said I am & I'm loving my little petite legs. She looked shocked. It did tickle me. Lol! I remember going to the Dr in 2008 & asking how to gain weight. I had always felt too small. He said something so profound, that I had to think long & hard. His words were: Clarice, you're the perfect size! He said do you know how many women would die to be your size & the lengths they go through. He said you're fine, don't worry about that. The older women get, it get's harder to keep weight off & you're not having that problem, so don't worry about it. He said you would look crazy with big legs & bigger shoulders. So, 2010 those words came back to me big time. During Chemo in 2009, I had to take steroids for seven days every three weeks until I was done with Chemo. Those steroids made me hungry all the time. I had snacks on my night stand & I would roll over in my sleep & eat with my eyes closed. I gained nine pounds & those pounds were so hard to get off! I see what my Dr meant. My butt & hips had gotten so big. If you put a pin in me, it looked like I would pop! My breast had even gotten bigger. I had to go up a bra size. I couldn't believe what was happening. I did lose the weight, but it took years. I realized that this is who I am. My mother is very petite & I take after her. I started embracing my body & loving it! The girl who use to tease me said that I was the same size as I was back then & all of them are gaining weight. She wanted to be my size. Every other time I would talk to her, she made reference to my weight, because she was gaining. I started embracing this at 38. I'm 40 now & I love my boney shoulders & my little legs! I wouldn't change it for the world. Oprah was right. When u get 40, things change & you feel more like a woman than ever before. She said your confidence shoots through the roof. I can't believe I let other's keep me stagnant! Never again! I thank God for opening my eyes. No one is perfect & we need to realize this & accept what God gave us. When we are in our 20's & 30's, we are so self conscious of every flaw. I don't like this or that, but God made us in his image. If he wanted me to have bigger legs, I would have them. If he wanted you to have something else, he would've given them to you. Embrace what you have & make the best out of it. I would've been so self conscious years ago to wear a top & show my scar. Who cares! Ask me about & I will be proud to tell you how I got the scar & I'm a survivor! I'm going to continue to love what God gave me! It's a great feeling to feel free! I'm not ashamed to admit my story to no one. It took Cancer to open up my eyes. I've always had confidence about myself. I just let insecure people get in my head. I'll never make that mistake again! I realized life was too short to be living in a box. I celebrate me! I've been through a lot to get to this point in my life & I am living my life & wearing my shorts & strapless dresses showing off my boney shoulders, etc. Love what you have & don't change for no one, but yourself. Change for the better & not because someone said this isn't perfect. Nothing on this earth is perfect, remember that. I remember these lyrics, I wish I was a little bit taller, I wish I was a little bit smaller. Whatever! My legs are just right for my frame. Wisdom is the best! People are going to talk & try to put you down, but remember to love you 1st & none of that will matter. I look in the mirror & I love what I see looking back! It's been a journey, but I made it through. That's my story & I embrace it. I hope it will help someone, somewhere. Love to all!
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